The difference between a good parent and the best parent

In reading a post tonight from a concerned mother, who is divorced. I couldn'’t help but see the signs of the same syndrome, that seems to me to be one of the many side affects of divorce. Not just prevalent in divorce but more harmful to a child in a family divided by that invisible barrier only the wise take heed of, and learn from.

The mother upon learning of her twelve year old daughter'’s desire to acquire a expensive puppy, tries to impress upon her daughter that her desire is hers alone to fulfill, as in reality we have to gradually wean the little teenage "“ monsters"”. In other words the mother wants her to earn it. However the father has different ideas, he thinks the daughter is too young etc etc.

However the fact remains life dictates our wants can only really be supplied by our own work, our parents pass eventually, and money doesn'’t grow on trees planted by liberals and socialists. In reality in this society our wants directly fall in behind our duties -– taxes, bills a roof over our heads, being parents that pass on more than money.

What better way to foster character and a better grasp of who they are as an individual in a thinking young human being, then have them learn how to work from someone other than family ? They need to learn how it feels to be criticized, scrutinized by a boss who demands value from them without the hug afterwards, and being tired from more than watching Much Music or talking on the phone, and the clincher? Maybe failing; the most scary unpleasant feeling of the whole mix. Maybe they will learn a valuable lesson, and they will mature in more ways than just a birth date?

How could a father or a mother not want their child to grow in a natural way? While certainly being concerned that the hammer life can be doesn'’t make their child the anvil before they develope the mental hardness to take its blows.

The father is just delaying the inevitable, the mother wants to get it over and done with as life is with all certainly waiting to show what it has in store, and we all get to see in no uncertain fashion, how unpleasant some moments can be, and those moments to each and every individual are defining ones no question.

Those lessons, some of the most valuable are lost most easily to children between divorced parents, the arguments in many cases to the children are explained second hand, as they see one side at a time, and unfortunately I fear in most cases one parent takes the easy road and coddles, and "“dutifully"” says what the child wants to hear, just to be revered and thought of fondly or the best - that'’s cheating, and coming from an adult despicable and sad.

We aren'’t perfect , children aren'’t perfect, and life isn'’t perfect and the sooner a child learns to put a smile on their own face from those honourable moments in life that matter most when we really feel our smile, they will be better off. Just as a parent would be better off realizing we aren'’t going to be around forever , and our children can either cheat at life, or take what wisdom we as parents or concerned adults pass on and someday they as adults and parents connect the dots and realise what life is all about, and what duty a parent really has - to pass on lessons with caring and the knowledge that someday their child is going to be called upon to be an adult, and they aren'’t going to be around to protect them.

My greatest reward in life ?– The day my daughters realise why “I was "the sternest bastard in the world"”, because I loved them so much to be anything else and their beauty and value has only grown as they have. I truly believe even with the hardships, the temporary fears of not being a good parent, my daughters have given me more than I will ever be able to repay to them, and it is a disservice to their beauty, character, and honest innocence to shield them at 11 and 14 from what life has in store, good or bad.

In her post the mother talks of her sins. Where is the sin in reality, when it truly exists in denial?

It's nice to be noticed

I have a thank you to put out there for Kate at Small Dead Animals, she took the time to link to me - and today my page views are up 365% (my free service stops at 1000 page views per day), too bad it wasn't because of something I wrote :). I really appreciate the time she takes to produce her blog, go thru all her emails, yet get on with her seemingly busy life. I find it hard and I'm surely not as busy, of course I'm an amateur when it comes to blogging, even writing.
I'm just saying thanks to Kate for her time.
She seems like a salt of the earth gal - but then most conservative women are.

Where are the left's balls?

You know I once told someone who had their undies in a knot over America and Iraq that they should not get so upset. Once democracy takes hold there as it has, and time goes by soon Iraq will have a divorce rate the same as ours is today, feminism will be in full swing and all of our other little bad habits when it comes to culture will be apparent, it’s just a side affect of “progressiveness” and politics.
So Jack what do you want your all for change? It seems to me you should be supporting our troops that are trying to bring a change for the better to another war torn society.
Your all for human rites at “all” costs, progressive ideals propelled out into society without much thought or concern?
Yet when soldiers that represent a modern country Iike Canada, put themselves in harms way, and inevitably bad things start to happen. We lose boys, and the realisation that the world can be a pretty barbaric place hits close to home, the left recoils blames the “evil”
Americans and wants to bring the boys home.
Our soldiers always fought the good fight, but somehow under the left the feeling was lost. It was like a father sending off a son he could really give a rats ass for. Nice to see there is some genuine concern by our government for our men and women in uniform that are trained to kill the bad guys, and help those that can’t help themselves.
I can't pretend to say what we should do with the troops in Afghanistan. For one I’m not a parent of a soldier, and have never served in the military. However if our men and women want to be there, feel they are making the lives of the good people there better, and killing the bad ones. I’ll proudly support them being there, just like our new PM ; with a longed for lump of pride for my country in my throat.
God Bless the soldiers in harms way and their families, and may Canada find some of its fortitude we have always had but have lost along the way.

Its a small world

Reading the local newspaper this week I was surprised to find some encouraging news that could help suggest Stephen Harper hasn't lost touch with the common man, and intends to keep with his promises.I found it even more surprising that it came from a good friend of mine I attended public and high school with. I took the liberty of scanning the paper and posting the article.

McGuinty - Does he want a medal or a chest to pin it on?

If you can imagine being back in public school at recess listening to the classic whiney tattletale voice his disdain over some perceived unfairness to the nearest teacher.It wouldn't be hard to see the similarities between Dalton Mcguinty and that one annoying brat we all remember.
Alberta proposes giving people that can pay the choice to get the care they need privately and Ontario's liberal premier screams blue murder, and seems to think that won't be Ontarios way.
Of course Dalton being the model liberal would rather just nailthose that work, with a claw back at tax time. Notice freedom of choice when it comes to your health isn't part of "McGiveme's" governing style. There is one choice he recognizes though and supports, the ability for an Ontarian to not work, whine about being a victim well collecting welfare, and getting off scott free when it comes to paying for the services they use, and being considered equal . They are no doubt behind McGuinty and his whining 100 % I'm sure.
McGuinty's disapproval of Alberta's plan should be met with a big meaty middle finger from those in Canada that like to have choice when it comes to themselves and their families welfare. I like politicians that have the fortitude to give the citizen's they represent a choice McGuinty and those that voted him in are still looking for theirs.
The biggest problem with McGuinty is hes full of the brown stuff, yet thinks he knows best.
Maybe he should stop governing like Toronto is all of Ontario, and worry about freedom of choice in his own province before he starts telling others what to do.